Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Stay-at-Home Mothers vs Working Mothers

How do you feel about housewives/stay-at-home mothers vs career mothers?

In a modern world we live now, I guess working mothers are quite common. I'm also a working mother. In fact, my working schedule is a bit different from normal working mothers.

Yes, I agree memang sepatutnya suami is designated to be a provider and protector. But did you know that one of the largest sources of stress for husbands in the modern day is an inability to provide enough for their families so that their wife can stay at home? Di tambah pula dengan situasi di Malaysia sekarang ni harga barang2 dah naik, of course family expenses pon will be increased. Problem is gaji yang tak naik2. So macam manalah husband tak stress kan. That's where, working wife come to rescue.

I know a lot of people view working, career mothers as abandoning their children. Yelar, pergi kerja time anak belum bangun, then balik kerja when it is about their bedtime. Got to spend only few hours with the kids everyday. Tu pon kalau anak2 tak tidur awal. Some might say working mothers are not truly raising their kids, being selfish and self-centered.

While stay-at-home mothers, have all day to do what they want without a lot of responsibility. They don’t have to report to a boss or file paperwork nor have annoying, gossipy co-workers to deal with.

I believe every mother in this world wants the best for their kids. Obviously anyone would want to be there for their children. Setiap ibu nak experience the big milestones of their children. We want to see when they started crawling, walking, eat the first solid food, hear the first word.

I also believe in quality over quantity. There are many stay at home mothers don't spend the best quality time with their children. While working mothers, might only have an hour a day and the weekends, BUT they make the most of that time and do memorable things with their child. It can go either way.

Every family is different, people all have different circumstances. A mother does what is best for the family. Doesn't matter they are working or stay-at-home mother. I want my kids to say this to me in the future "Ibu, Thank you for raising us well and we are proud of you on what you've done". InsyaAllah.


Husna Hadzarami said...


Bila nak ada anak ni, how I wish I can be a fulltime housewife. Bukan apa, kalau ada orang yang dipercayai jaga anak takpe. Aku ni bila fikir nak hantar anak pada pengasuh hati rasa tak tenang je..

Itu antara kelebihan Stay-at-Home Mothers lah, in my point of view..

What to do.. *sigh..

miralatiff said...

Husna: I have to agree with you..lagi2 now a days byk issue anak kena dera dengan pengasuh and some lead to fatality..the think of it make me feel scare.

But now,we have a lot of commitment.. Yes, it may sounds a bit selfish sbb still nak kerja even dah ade anak..but what we did now is for the best for their education fees pon makin mahal..of course kita nak hantar anak kita to the best school we need to start saving from now..

Anyway, just gunakan time yg ade untuk anak2 dengan sebaik nya..make the best out of it..

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